People with personality disorders thrive in courtroom litigation; they are high-conflict personalities (HCPs) and are sometimes called “litigation junkies” by judges. According to Bill Eddy, an author who previously worked as a litigation lawyer and clinical social worker, HCPs fit perfectly into the traditional adversarial court process because of their similarities.
Eddy made the following comparison between HCPs and the adversarial court process.
|Characteristics of High-Conflict Personalities||Characteristics of the Adversarial Court Process|
|Lifetime preoccupation: blaming others||Purpose is deciding who is to blame, who is “guilty”|
|Avoids taking responsibility||The court will hold someone else responsible|
|All-or-nothing thinking||“Guilty” and “not guilty” are usually the only choices|
|Always seeking attention and sympathy||Can be the centre of attention and sympathy|
|Aggressively seeks allies in their cause||Can bring numerous advocates to court|
|Speaks in dramatic, emotional extremes||Can argue or testify in dramatic, emotional extremes|
|Focuses intensively on others’ past behavior||Can hear if give testimony on past behaviour of others|
|Punishes those guilty of hurting them||Court is the place to impose maximum punishment|
|Try to get others to solve their problems||Get the court to solve one’s problems|
|It’s okay to lie if they feel desperate||Lying (perjury) is rarely acknowledged or punished|
In addition to writing about HCPs and court, Eddy has developed a court diversion program called New Ways for Families (NWFF), which is being piloted in the Medicine Hat and Calgary areas. NWFF tries to teach HCPs the skills needed to settle custody and family law disputes.
Eddy spoke at the April 2014 AFMS conference held in Calgary. He spoke first about the relationship between childhood brain development and adult personality disorder. He then spoke about how to reduce conflict with HCPs and about the NWFF program.
Personality disorder is defined in the DSM-IV as an enduring pattern of impairment and distress in the following areas:
- Cognition (all-or-nothing thinking)
- Emotions (disproportionate responses)
- Interpersonal functioning (dysfunctional)
- Impulse control (extreme behaviours)
The NWFF program diverts HCPs out of the courtroom and into a six- to sixteen-week program where they are taught the following skills:
- Flexible thinking
- Managed emotions
- Moderate behaviours
- Checking yourself
HCPs who have completed the NWFF program are much more likely to settle their parenting and custody disputes, instead of endlessly litigating.
For dealing with HCPs, Eddy suggests that we follow the BIFF principle, that is, be brief, informational, firm, and friendly in our communications. By using the BIFF principle, the communication will be effective and will not be sidetracked by the HCP’s own personality.
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